How to Improve Self-Esteem | Therapy in Cardiff

Recently, I had a therapy session with a client where we identified that the next focus would be on self-esteem. Ahead of the session, I created a short tip sheet to help support the conversation—and since then, I’ve found myself sharing it with many more people.

As a Cardiff counsellor, I often see how deeply self-esteem can affect our emotional wellbeing. While not every mental health challenge stems from low self-worth, there’s often a strong connection between how we feel about ourselves and how we cope with life.

Why Self-Esteem Matters

The language we use to describe ourselves, the core beliefs we hold, and the way we see our own value all play a key role in mental health.

In my work offering therapy in Cardiff, I’ve supported many people struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, or life transitions—often finding that a compassionate look at self-esteem is part of the healing process.

Here are some practical, achievable ideas you can try—starting today.

✨ 12 Tips to Support Healthy Self-Esteem

You don’t need to try all of these at once. Start where you are and choose one or two that feel possible.

1. List 5 Things You Like About YourselfIf five feels too many, start with one. Keep building on the list. It may feel unfamiliar at first, but self-kindness grows with practice.

2. Recall Something You Felt Proud of TodayEven if it’s small—getting out of bed, replying to an email, making a healthy choice—it counts.

3. Reconnect With Your Goals and DreamsThinking about what excites or motivates you can bring back a sense of direction and self-worth.

4. Notice Past Struggles Without BlameDifficult experiences don’t define you—and they weren’t your fault. You’ve always done your best with what you had at the time.

5. Challenge Negative ThoughtsIf you catch a critical thought, gently ask: “Is this true?” or “What would I say to a friend in this situation?”

6. Make Time for JoyListen to music, draw, dance, call someone, or scroll social media in a way that feels nourishing—not draining.

7. Reframe “Weaknesses” as OpportunitiesWe all have areas we want to grow in. Growth is part of being human, not a sign of failure.

8. Reward Yourself for Small WinsYou’re here. You’re reading this. That matters. Take a moment to acknowledge what you’ve achieved today—even if it’s just showing up.

9. Practice Gratitude and AppreciationNotice the little things—a good cup of tea, a kind word, a quiet moment. And notice something positive about yourself, too.

10. Pay Attention to All Your FeelingsYour feelings are valid—even the difficult ones. Try to understand where they come from, without judgment.

11. Explore Your TriggersWhen sadness, anger, or insecurity show up, reflect gently. What sparked this feeling? Is there a pattern? This awareness can be powerful.

12. Journal It OutWrite down thoughts, emotions, and recurring worries. Putting your experience into words can be deeply therapeutic, even outside of formal counselling in Cardiff.

Final Thoughts from a Cardiff Therapist

Self-esteem is something we can work on—at any time, and at any stage of life. In my work as a Cardiff therapist, I often remind clients: you don’t need to be perfect to be worthy. You just need to be real, and willing to start.

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or want to explore these ideas in a safe, supportive environment, I offer therapy in Cardiff for individuals who want to build confidence, self-awareness, and emotional resilience.

📩 Get in touch today for a free initial consultation.

Your thoughts and feedback are always welcome—feel free to share what works for you.